| Verbal self defense is a very important skill. | | | | your instincts when you hear words which are |
| Negative communication has become a part and | | | | spoken normally but mean harm to you. Verbal |
| parcel of life, whether it's your home, office, | | | | violence doesn't necessarily involve obscene |
| some store you often feel that you are being | | | | language, but when you are under an attack you |
| attacked with words. No matter how much | | | | will know that as per your gut feeling. |
| physical strength you have verbal attacks will | | | | The second principle of self defense: Know the |
| leave you feeling lame and unprotected, also one | | | | kind of attack you are facing: |
| is far more vulnerable to verbal attacks than | | | | Physical violence can mostly be caused by people |
| physical ones. The percentage one experiences a | | | | who are strong and bodily healthy, however for |
| physical attack is lesser than that of a verbal | | | | verbal violence none of that is needed; you can |
| attack and all your knowledge of martial arts will | | | | be under an attack from a frail old lady and |
| be left aside if you do not know how to deal with | | | | children too. It's important to try and understand |
| such situations. On the contrary if you do try to | | | | the reason behind the attack and the goal behind |
| handle this kind of an attack with your general | | | | it.What is the attacker trying to accomplish. |
| response of a physical attack then you will either | | | | The third principle is how to tackle and get out of |
| end up arrested or fired, even both. There are | | | | it: |
| two basic things involved in verbal self defense: | | | | The best way to deal with a verbal attack is to |
| you should be able to maintain an environment | | | | counter it in an impersonal way and try and |
| around you by the virtue of your own language | | | | diffuse the situation quickly. Turning away from a |
| and behavior so that there is no chance of verbal | | | | situation will give the attacker the satisfaction that |
| violence. Secondly, if caught up in an act of verbal | | | | he can push your buttons and if you plead or |
| violence you should be able to defend yourself | | | | start giving clarifications then also he will feel he |
| effectively and efficiently without feeling deeply | | | | got you. Be calm and positive in the language you |
| affected or at loss because of the attack. | | | | use, instead of getting trapped in an argument |
| The first principle of verbal self defense is: know | | | | which is just what the attacker would like. The |
| when you are under attack: | | | | best approach is to quickly and smartly divert the |
| For acts of physical violence you can easily know | | | | topic and lead the conversation your way. Avoid |
| you are being attacked, but not in case of verbal | | | | saying anything personal and keep a control on |
| violence. It's important that you learn to recognize | | | | your tone of voice and body language. This way |
| such attacks in your day-to-day life so that you | | | | you will convey to the attacker that you are not |
| can deal with them effectively and also reduce | | | | interested in his little game. |
| the chances of them occurring frequently. Trust | | | | |