Martial Arts and the Perfectionist

I appreciate martial arts students who want to dotrained properly. My best approach is to:
everything perfectly. They are usually very* Encourage them to lighten up! I have to
committed and hard working. They sign up forconstantly remind them not to be so hard on
classes ready to train and full of enthusiasm!themselves.
Unfortunately, this enthusiasm disappears very* Limit the amount of questions I allow during a
quickly. The one problem is that perfectionistsclass. I can't ignore all questions, because some
worry themselves to death! They start off with aare legitimate. A martial arts class however should
very positive attitude, but set the bar so highnot consist of a lot of chitchat. Most people want
that they get depressed and disappointed if theyto work up a sweat and learn the art. Too many
can't meet their expectations.questions can also annoy other students so
Students with such high anxiety also tend to askfocusing on everyone getting a good workout is
a lot of questions and over-analyze. Instead ofimportant.
enjoying their martial arts training, it becomes* During open workout sessions, I specifically
stressful. Some don't want to take promotiondirect the perfectionist on what they should do
tests because in their minds, they are never reallyfor that hour. Some students are so self-directed
ready! Nothing they do is ever good enough.that they show up to an open workout with an
When students are over thinking and overagenda and can keep busy for an hour.
analyzing they are stimulating the wrong part ofPerfectionists need a plan. Give it to them! They'll
their brain for learning martial arts. Some thinkingrise to the occasion.
is involved, but for the most part with martial arts* Don't be afraid to correct perfectionists
as in all athletic endeavors learning comes bybecause you feel it will upset them. An instructor
FELLING your way through things. If a student iswho feeds into this is not really teaching. Constant
working their way though a new movement andpraise is counterproductive and doesn't help the
standing still thinking, scratching their head, talkingstudent learn. Make constructive corrections and
to himself or herself, calculating, without anytell the student how to improve!
movement - step in! Get them out of that habitAbove all, focus on the overall learning experience.
and make them move and feel their way throughWhen directed by a knowledgeable instructor,
the movement.perfectionists have the potential to be outstanding
I've taught martial arts for over 30 yearsmartial artists. Encourage them to enjoy the
because I love teaching. I don't like to give up onjourney!
the perfectionists. They can be superior athletes if